Your life has completely changed already and the baby isn't even here, yet.
The words were like an echo in the cavernous space of my emptying baby-brain.
I sat at brunch as my good friend and once-roommate told me about my own life.
I sat on the hard metal bench, my thighs spilling over the sides and my baby-bulbous-belly pressed against the table.
We were talking about life and pregnancy, and I don't think I had realized that. In that way that life sometimes just happens to you. I just kind of nodded in agreement, not fully registering, looking away quickly and closing my eyes tightly against the burning tears that are always on the precipice of falling these days.
Don't worry, Alyssa. You'll figure out the oven, eventually.
In the first week at the new house, Nash found me sobbing in the kitchen two or three or five times.
The tears are triggered by any and everything. Sometimes it's deep, inexplicable sadness. Sometimes it's just an outlet for the build-up of uncontrollable humanness, as if I'm existing solely in the state of the id.
I had decided to make mac and cheese for dinner. I went to the corner store and I bought noodles and a block of cheddar. I turned on the oven. I pressed the bake button, beep, selected "start / on," beep -- watched the timer count-down its preheating process. But when the block-cheddar and cut-up mozzarella sticks with a dash of ground mustard and simmering cream-cheese milk combo was ready to bake, topped with potato chips because I didn't have bread crumbs, I set it in the oven that... wasn't hot. It was maybe a touch warm, but certainly not baking. I called out to Nash that our oven doesn't work.
Impossible, he told me. He had used it that morning for toast. He pressed the same buttons that made the same beep-beeps, flashed me a smile, and left the kitchen.
Impossible, he told me. He had used it that morning for toast. He pressed the same buttons that made the same beep-beeps, flashed me a smile, and left the kitchen.
And it worked this time. He came back in to check, and turned to me like he was a hero. I erupted into tears. I'm not an idiot! I yelled at him. I know how to work an oven!
He hugged me, confused. Said he was just looking for a thank you -- words I had to choke out through my wounded pride. He held me as I hiccuped with angry tears, not able to work an oven, not able to do anything other than cry about it.
"What did you do with your first Friday off?" my friend Doug asked later.
"I'm at the point in pregnancy where I cry about everything. So I cried because I couldn't turn on the oven, and then later I cried because I remembered not being able to turn on the oven, and then I sat alone and worried Nash might meet someone out at the bar and not come home and then I cried myself to sleep."
"Jesus!" he said. "I used to be the one with all the uncomfortable topics."
"HaHA!" I said, victoriously, as if I've won something. If all I have is this excess of emotion -- maybe being the saddest of all my sad friends is the one thing I can rejoice in.
"Don't worry, Alyssa. You'll figure out the oven eventually," Doug said, jokingly reassuring.
Yeah. Don't worry, Alyssa. You'll figure out the ______ eventually.